Failure is an opportunity for growth. It challenges us to solve problems and become self- efficacious people. It teaches self efficacy not artificially propped up self-esteem. Further, when we resolve small problems in less critical situations, It gives us resiliency and a belief in our abilities to solve larger problems in the future.
We do a great disservice to people by sheltering them from hardship and failure. Failures and challenges in our children are chances to realize that in life things are not always fair and at times may be difficult. This will strengthen their resolve and belief in themselves. If further challenges them to think creativity about solutions and alternative ways to solve problems. When we swoop in and solve them, they lose this opportunity for growth and may end feeling much worse about themselves.
Ask Dr S. 